Surgery, Court & Jail Visits = Fun Times or Something


My surgery went well. It turned out that my Lapband did slip and the skin that they put over it to keep it in place had ripped. So it was a good thing I got the surgery after all.

I ended up spending the night, which was not cool at all. I ended up with a roommate that moaned, groaned and coughed incessantly despite saying she was not in any pain. Lucky me!
The cool thing was that a PA came in the room around 8am and said I could go home if I ate a good breakfast and tolerated it okay. I was starving! They had a menu and you order food like room service! I had a ham and cheddar omelet, home fried potatoes and apple juice. It all went down so easy! Then hubby came and picked me up. I was so thankful to go home and sleep in my own bed!

The rescheduled permanency hearing for Buddy was pretty uneventful except that bio-mom got to meet with her lawyer for the first time right before court started and she just lied up a storm. She said that she has everything in place to take Buddy home when she gets out of jail: place to live, clothes and supplies. I wanted to ask her what size he wears so bad! She was homeless last I knew, with no job, so it’s just so hard to sit there and listen to her distorted view of reality. I don’t know why she thinks she’s getting him back when she gets out. She still has to take parenting classes, get a psychological evaluation, take anger management classes and I’m not sure if she’d still have to do rehab or not.
Court lasted all of 10 minutes.

Yesterday I got some pretty upsetting news after I got home from my surgery. Bio-mom applied for this program that they call Headstart (not the preschool). It’s a time for her to spend about an hour to an hour and a half with Buddy twice a month and get parenting lessons. First off, we were told that she probably wouldn’t qualify for it since TPR is scheduled for January 7th. Then, not only does she qualify, but we have to take him to the jail twice a month and the Headstart people want to come to our house and meet with us twice a month on top of the monthly visit we already do with social services. So, five times a month I’m either going to jail or entertaining people in my home because she got locked up! Hopefully we don’t still have to do the regular jail visit too! It’s so not fair to us or Buddy. I’m also sure my husband’s job is going to love him taking all that time off! Buddy has night terrors again and his attitude is horrible since she’s been back in his life. It upsets me so much I’m not going to talk about it anymore.

My husband said that we just need to play the game until TPR. The thing is that bio-mom is not going to sign over her parental rights on the 7th, she’s going to make them go to trial, which will drag things out longer and she’ll still get her time with him.

So, what I am going to think about is the fact that Thanksgiving is this week and I can enjoy a nice dinner with my family! Last year when my dad asked us what we were thankful for, I was in tears because I knew that the foster baby we had was going to go back to his parents soon. Now we have Buddy with us and we’re pretty sure he’s here to stay. I’m so thankful to have him, my amazing husband and a wonderful and supportive family.


Hummus is Yummus

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I have a confession to make, I know I’m not a food blogger, but I am a foodie who has weight issues, so here is my latest dilemma… I am a hummus addict! It all started a few months back. I was previously on a guacamole kick and was looking to switch gears. I go for more savory foods than sweet. I looked at all the different kinds of hummus: red pepper, artichoke, garlic, black bean and then I saw Greek olive. Mmmm… that sounded good. I wiped out a container in no time flat. I realized my addiction was starting to get expensive as I was buying several containers at a time, so I decided to try and make my own.

If you don’t know, hummus is a creamy spread/dip that is made of chick peas/garbanzo beans. It’s good with veggies, crackers or use it as a spread on a sandwich or wrap. It’s good for you too. It has fiber and protein, but, like all things, should probably be eaten in moderation, unlike me who eats it all day long. I actually had to buy a new food processor because I broke my blender/food processor combo making so much hummus!

I perused the internet and found an awesome and simple hummus recipe from Joanne at Inspired Taste. It calls for tahini which is very expensive, so then I looked up a recipe for that. Anna from Popsugar helped me figure out that it’s basically sesame peanut butter. I’m too lazy to throw the seeds in the oven, so I just throw them in a saute pan on the stove with some cooking spray and it works just fine. Just be conservative with the olive oil. Go light on the salt in the hummus recipe too because canned chick peas are already salty (as are the olives). After I’ve made the hummus, I throw a jar of kalamata olives in the food processor and spread it on top. I have been in hummus heaven ever since. I dip chunks of red and green peppers, sliced carrots and my fav is jicama. If you’ve never tried it before, it’s equally as awesome as hummus. It’s a big tan colored root that taste like a cross between a potato and an apple. Crunchy but a little sweet and soooo good.

Hummus is not for everyone, my husband and Buddy tell me it’s stinky, but I like it and that means more for me! My friend’s six year old’s favorite food is hummus and he eats it on bread. So, if you decide to join Team Hummus and give it a try, be careful or you’ll become an addict like me. I made myself hungry writing this post, so I’m getting some hummus, don’t judge. Next week I’ll get a fill and try to ween myself off of eating so much of the creamy goodness.

I Lost My Houseman! (sniff, sniff)


Hubby went back to work this week. His six weeks of recovery time after gastric bypass surgery is up. It went by fast for me, so I’m sure that it flew by for him. While it was difficult taking care of Buddy mostly by myself (he had a weight lifting restriction), Hubby helped out around the house. I had my own personal houseman!

After Hubby started feeling a little better, he started doing a lot of the household chores that I would have been too exhausted to do. I would take the laundry down to the basement and he would wash it all. Buddy and I would dirty the dishes and he would wash them. Buddy and I would mess up the house and Hubby would pick up after us. It was awesome! He even organized the basement; something I wouldn’t have gotten to in a million years!

Mother’s Day was my last day to bask in the glory. I got was the opportunity to sleep in until 9am! Then I got hugs and kisses from Buddy and a sweet card, a double heart necklace from Buddy (and Daddy) and even a gift card from my furry “children.” Buddy even gave me a nice drawing of his hand prints with a poem from daycare. Then hubby preceded to clean the house, sweeping and mopping the floors.¬† I even took a nap. It was a wonderful day.

Now we are back to reality. It’s all good though. We can share the chores and get things done together. Work took it easy on him yesterday. Hopefully the rest of the week won’t do him in. I know that he still isn’t up to full speed yet, but he’s looking pretty svelte! He’s lost about 30 lbs. since the surgery (80 lbs. since starting the process). I’m really proud of him and also realizing I better start hitting the gym again, especially after eating a whole pint of Fro Yo yesterday! Oops!

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Weighty Subject

I'm not fat, I'm Fluffy!

I’m not fat, I’m Fluffy!

I don’t know about you, but my body just isn’t the same as it was in my twenties. Not only has gravity done it’s thing, but my curves have been a little lumpier. Needless to say, I’ve had to make some life changes.

I decided that my weight and my health had gotten out of control. I had high blood pressure, low thyroid, high cholesterol¬† and I had pre-diabetes. I was the heaviest and largest size I’d ever been. I thought that I’d look into weight loss surgery since dieting didn’t seem to be working for me long term. I spoke to my doctor about it, went to a seminar and did my research.

I decided that I’d get the lapband. I had a cousin who had great success with it. As I mentioned before, I have been trying to get pregnant and they don’t recommend that you do that with the gastric bypass. Gastric bypass is also a much more invasive surgery and would require about a month out of work.

The lapband is done laproscopically. They make 3 to 5 small incisions, pull the band through and cinch it around a small piece of your stomach. I went home the same day and took about a week to recover. Every few months you can go to the doctors office and they can put a small amount of saline into the band, called a fill, to restrict you more, allowing you to lose more weight. There are many side effects however. Don’t get it done if you have acid reflux. If you didn’t know you had acid reflux, having lapband surgery is not a good way to find out. You have to take small bites and take breaks between bites. Otherwise you will regurgitate your food. This is not fun at restaurants. Don’t drink while you eat either or you will projectile vomit. You have to be careful what you eat as well. Foods like soft bread or pizza tend to stick in my throat, so I avoid them at all cost.

My husband has chosen to get gastric bypass surgery since he has many health issues as well. He knows that he has acid reflux and has much more weight to lose. Gastric bypass is when they detach your intestines from your stomach and bypass it altogether. He doesn’t get his surgery until April, so we’ll see how he does with it.

For me, it took a lot of practice. I was a fast eater who shoveled my food. I definitely can’t do that anymore. I have done a great job at eating healthier and I exercise everyday. I have lost a total of 70 lbs., but would still like to lose about 40 more. However, between breaking my ankle over the summer and having the foster baby, I was limited in when I could go to the gym and my weight has stayed the same for several months. I do walk the dog every day and I took an aerobics class once a week with a friend. I eat greek yogurt, lots of salads and vegetables, lean meats and brown rice. Now I don’t have an excuse, so I hope to keep on my weight loss journey!

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