She’s Back


We have had almost six months of peace. We haven’t heard from Buddy’s bio-mom, he hasn’t gone on visits and she has had no known address. Then a defense attorney called the caseworker… she’s in jail.

To the average person, that might sound like a good thing. She’s in jail, that means that she’ll have no chance of getting Buddy back. Well, maybe, but that’s not how I see it. While she was “MIA” she had no known address to send info to. So, she didn’t know about doctor’s appointments, progression in the case or that the paperwork for her rights to be terminated (TPR) is being filed on Tuesday.

Now she has an address. It’s the justice center in the city. The caseworker is required to let her know what’s going on. She also has the right to resume visits. IN JAIL!! That just infuriates me to no end. Why do people who are in jail have rights? Our little man, who, 90% of the time is sleeping through the night, without night terrors finally, is going to have to sit across from his bio-mom, who he hasn’t seen in six months, for a visit in jail if she chooses.

We have a permanency hearing in a month. Is she going to be allowed to go to that? Is she going to go to the TPR hearing?

Another perk of her being in jail is that she get services. As part of her pleading guilty to her charges, she has agreed to go to inpatient rehab. If she screws up, she’s back in jail (I’m not sure when this would start or when she’s getting out in the first place).

We were in the home stretch with our little man. Yes, it will put off his adoption and that stinks, but what is worse is that it puts her back into his life which was finally starting to be somewhat normal. He smiles and laughs all the time now. He trusts us more. He’s sleeping.

She currently has 9 various charges filed against her. Four she committed while in jail. The other sad thing to note is that for $14,000 she could be out on bail, but has nobody to post it for her. She is a sick young lady. Hopefully she’ll choose to do what’s best for her son.


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In The News

ImageSometimes I wonder why I bother to read the news when it’s filled with sad, horrific events. It makes me really question humanity and fear what our children have to look forward to.

Here is an article about a mom in California who repeatedly used drugs while breast feeding. Now she faces murder charges in her son’s death.

Court documents show Stephens was warned months before her son’s death to stop breastfeeding because Ryder had high levels of methadone in his bloodstream.

The family tried to help the baby, but the system kept allowing her to keep the child. The child was brought to the hospital before. The mother drove off the road and CPS was called by the police, but still nothing was done. Why?!

CPS Deputy Director Michelle Callejas said approvals sometimes take awhile.

In a later assessment, the agency claimed Ryder faced a low risk of future mistreatment.

Why do we give birth mother’s all these chances? Why did this baby have to die?

Here is another article about a preemie who was found in the trash in New Jersey. Luckily some boys found him and the baby boy will survive. We live in this world where we pay millions of dollars to athletes and actors but we are constantly cutting funding for schools, the poor and the mentally ill and it sickens me. The article ends with this quote:

“There’s so many childless couples out here, I’m quite sure someone will adopt the baby and the baby will go to a good home,” said neighbor Sheril Shaw.


Luckily there are people like this anonymous couple who realizes how difficult raising children can be, especially a child with special needs, which gives me hope. They saw a family struggling with their son in a restaurant full of people, paid their check and wrote this note. Image

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